How I approach working with people-pleasing
People pleasing often develops as a way to stay safe, loved, or accepted - especially if your early experiences taught you that your worth is tied to what you provide others.
This page offers a closer look at what people-pleasing can feel like, where it often begins, and how therapy might help.
What does people-pleasing feel like?
You might notice:
Saying “yes” when you’re overwhelmed or unsure
Feeling responsible for others’ emotions
Struggling to identify what you actually want
Everyone’s experiences are unique. All of it is valid.
Where does it come from?
People-pleasing can emerge from a number of places:
Early attachment dynamics
Cultural or gendered expectations
Fear of rejection
You don’t have to have it all figured out. Together we can explore how these patterns formed and what’s still serving you - or not.
How therapy can support you with people-pleasing
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Making space for your own needs
Therapy can help you reconnect with your wants, limits, and voice - even if they’ve been buried for years
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Understanding the cost of constant accomodation
We’ll explore how putting others first has affected your wellbeing, relationships, and sense of self
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Practicing boundaries with compassion
You’ll learn how to set limits in a way that feels kind but firm. Allowing you to honour yourself and others without abandoning either.