How I approach working with self-doubt and the inner critic
Self-doubt can show up as a quiet hum or a relentless voice making you question your every thought and decision. It might sound like “You’ll mess this up anyway” or “Who do you think you are'“. Over time, this voice can feel like the truth
This page offers a closer look at what self-doubt and the inner critic can feel like, where they often begin, and how therapy might help.
What does self-doubt feel like?
You might notice:
Overthinking or second-guessing decisions
A harsh inner voice that’s quick to criticize
Avoiding opportunities or speaking up, even when you want to
Not everyone’s experience looks the same. For some, it’s loud and constant. For others, it only shows up in certain roles or relationships. All of it is valid.
Where does it come from?
Self-doubt and the inner critic can emerge from a number of places:
Early experiences of criticism or comparison
Cultural or family messages about success, worth, or identity
Internalized beliefs from perfectionism, trauma, or people pleasing.
You weren’t born doubting yourself. This voice is learned - which means it can also be unlearned.
How therapy can support you with self-doubt
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Naming the voice - and separating from it
We’ll get curious about what the inner critic says, where it came from, and how it’s affecting your choices and self-worth.
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Understanding what it’s trying to protect
Often, self-doubt is tied to fear - of failure, rejection, or shame. Therapy helps bring compassion to those fears, so they don’t have to run the show.
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Strengthening your inner advocate
You’ll begin to build a gentler, more grounded relationship with yourself. One that leaves room for courage, confidence, and mistakes.